Category: Dating and Relationships
So, do you think it's wrong to date a person outside your race? And do you think it's easier for blind people to do this because in general, they're more accepting, not to mention some of us can't see color, so it doesn't matter?
Hi, I have no problem with interracial dating. I would be much more particular when it comes to religion. I don't know if I'm more accepting. I have extremely high standards in what I do/don't like in a guy. In fact, I happen to like foreign guys so interracial dating would be fine for me personally.
I too wouldnt' have a problem with it. I too happen to like a spacific accent on girls, so it would be wrong of me, not to mention stupid to be prejudiced against them and like them at the same time lol. I don't however think that prejudice is based on colour alone. Blind guys can be as narrow minded and biggoted as sighted. It is fear and ignorance, and an unwillingness to look outside our own little corner of the world that breeds prejudice, hatred and a narrowing down to our own race relationships. Nope, when love hits ya, it don't matter if she has three heads, a tail, and comes from the planet blarffledink, love is love, end of story. And end of rather long post too lol.
Cheers,
Simon
Nah, I don't have a problem with it.
Agreed. I see no problem with it.
If we looked at it from the blind prospective in that you can't see the color then the world might get along better. :) You strip race from humans and we are just people. So I'll date a Mars Marshon. Lol
Personally, I don't have a problem with it. I don't think it should matter what race or religion a person is. As long as they're happy, that's all that matters. Most blind people are pretty accepting of things like that, but I do know some blind people who are prejudiced.
Thanks for the support. I've been in an inter-racial relationship for a little over a year, and it seems like everywhere I go I'm taking crap for it, so I appreciate hearing some words of encouragement for once.
Firstly, race is much more than just skin colour, so the fact that you can't see somebody's complexion is irrelevant in that you need to go deeper than just outside appearances to know how somebody's race may or may not affect their beliefs, lifestyle etc. Besides, somebody's race may be tempered by their upbringing; I'm a Black man from African parents but born and raised in the UK. I'm light-skinned but if you only heard my voice (which you can on my audio profile) you wouldn't know that I'm not White.
Secondly, I'm afraid it's naive to say that somebody's race doesn't matter. Of course it matters, just to different degrees. While we're dating, it may not matter a great deal, though my views on certain things will differ from yours because my upbringing and experiences will have shaped me. When it comes to meeting family or discussion about kids, there may be certain things that have never been thought of that suddenly become very important. Like I said, it's not necessarily the most important thing, but it's certainly something that needs to be considered, especially if the relationship is going beyond dating.
I have no problem with interracial dating, I *do* have a problem with "curiosity interracial dating" where I'm somebody's novelty because they've "never gone Black" or they've heard the rumours but I've a pretty keen sense when a woman approaches with this in mind. Have I rambled enough yet ..?
That's a legitimate point, but is it wrong for 2 people from different races to have kids together just because of the problems they would face? Aren't there about 500 other reasons that kids get picked on for anyways? I don't think it should be an issue, and especially because I found an article on the Internet that said when you have a child with someone of a different race, you've destroyed a perfectly decent family line. How does that even make logical sense?
I didn't say they shouldn't have mixed-race children, I just said it was a consideration. And yes, there are many reasons why children get picked on, but before you even get to the stage of the child mixing with other children you may have to deal with one (or two) shall we say "less than progressive" sets of extended family, and it's not as simple as saying it shouldn't be an issue. It's the child that will have to deal with most of the crap (if it arises), not its parents ...
Hi, all. I definitely have no problem with interracial dating. Race can affect one's culture and beliefs, but as long as the couple has talked about this and they're compatible, then it doesn't matter about skin color or nationality. Well, let's rephrase. I don't think anyone outside the relationship has a right to say those two people shouldn't be together based on race, nationality, etc, if the couple is happy together. Turtle, as long as you and your significant other are happy, then the rest of the world can deal, even if they don't like it.
A cote of white paint can fix all your problems.
I think dating + realationships between diferent cultures are challenging. I tend to like foreigners myself, and that does cause some problems. :) wit h that beeign said, i also have quite high standards in what .. or who i look for, and i think my family have even higher standards. heh .. they would be skeptical if I decided to marry someone from another country, and i do beleive, the more far away, the more skeptic.
Now, how ever, i beleive those things can be conqured, but it takes time, and effort. :-) I had a while where basically none of those i hang with were norwegians.. now however, i do have norwegian friends again,, and i looooove it ;) feels goood to be norwegian in norway again ;)
now i've rambled alot too :) take good care all ;)
Hi, while we're on the topic of blind people and dating, does anyone besides me get peeved when people tell you that since you're blind, looks and other features shouldn't matter? Well, I'm blind, and these things do matter. Sorry, but I'm not necessarily any less particular than other girls when it comes to guys. I'm not saying they have to be from the Chippendale's, but someone that is relatively attractive is fine with me. Of course, I know attractive is a relative term, but I once heard of a blind guy dating a morbidly obese person. Now, of course, they may have really loved each other, but I did wonder if the woman wasn't taking advantage of his blindness? Just something to think about.
Forget color and stereotypes for a second. How easy it is now to determine one's race/ethnicity? This should really show just how important race is in the broader scheme of things.
While I don't have a problem with interracial dating (I'm doing it myself), I am well aware of the problems it has a tendency to present, especially when dealing with family and the possible clashing of different cultures. But in the end, it's only a problem if people make it a problem.
I don't think there's anyone who's a huge fan of the stereotypes associated with any race, but that doesn't mean we should go and exclude certain types of people just because of some twisted preconceived notions. Everyone's an individual. Unfortunately, some people let themselves become the stereotypes.
Hey I honestly do not see a problem with it either.
Gotta agree with posts 16 and 17.
I dont have a problem with it either. Its more about what you have in common, likes and dislikes etc.
Same here. I must admit cultural differences can b a problem,,, especially when your bf comes from a culture where women are often demeaned and are thought of as juust slaves a he calls u bitchand such, but otherwise, I love dating guys of other races... It is fascinating to learn about their cultures and things like that.
I sertainly have know problem with it. I'm a dark woman, and, where i come from, it's not always a good thing to be dark. I personly couldn't care what colour my partner is, as long as he treats me right, then, what's it matter. Though, i have met many men, that dissagree strongly, and, wouldn't have even thought about dating me, coz of my colour. But As long as the 2 parties involved can sort out any cultural difforences, and, are happy with one another, then, there's know problem.
I couldn't care about skin colour, race, religion, any of it, if you boath care about one another, then, what's the problem?
Well, get ready for a nice long post.
I grew up in a multicultural area. Most of the schools I attended were full of students of all races and colors. However, my birth parents are very racist and my mother wouldn't even allow me to continue speaking to a black girl I became friends with. I have a semi-adoptive mom who is very accepting and was pretty much okay with my dates as a teenager. I met Louis when I was 17. Louis is black, and I am white. We faced a lot of criticism and negativity from my birth mother. My brothers even threatened to hurt Louis, and called him a nigger to his face on several occasions. This was before we were even married. When we got married, my mother would not come to our ceremony, and even though she didn't say so, I think it was because of her issues with my husband. When I found out I was pregnant, my mother said "I hope this kid looks more like you than Louis. It would be much prettier if it didn't look at all like him, but since he's black, its genes won't come out like yours." It was a very retarded, close-minded way of saying that our family's white race was no longer pure because I tainted it by marrying and getting pregnant by someone who is black. Ever since my son was born, my family will not speak to me. I really don't care as they've done lots of things to hurt me. My adoptive family have been more than supportive. My adoptive mom loves him as if he were her own blood, and I am so grateful he has a loving, caring grandma. So, yes, of course I think that if two people of different cultures want to date and marry and have babies, I say go for it. It may be a bumpy road, but love always conquers war, so in the end, your child or children will learn to appreciate who they are, and with your guidance and understanding, they wil conquer the bullies of this world. Good luck, and best wishes.
I know when my boyfriend and I get married, my dad will probably not speak to me anymore either. But I really don't care that much either, because even though I've heard "blood is thicker than water" and all that crap, I don't think it's right to make anybody choose between their family and someone they love. My dad tried to do that, and it almost resulted in me killing myself because I couldn't choose. So my boyfriend and I talked about it, and told me not to do that to him. So I came to the conclusion that he loved me for who I am, while my dad only "loved" me for an idealized picture of who he'd like me to be. I decided that I would follow my heart because I knew it was right. It's been over a year now and we're still together. We're talking about moving in together (once we get jobs or graduate or both) and fuck what my dad thinks.
Also, to the post that said blind people should pay more attention to looks: well, I personally wouldn't date someone who was obese, but I don't think that has anything to do with being blind. Don't plenty of sighted people do that too, and get past it? I don't think it has anything to do with that. I think it just depends on what people feel comfortable with.
No, I certainly don't, but marrying an Asian man is a no for me since the attitude will not any future children I have.
However, it's not color that is the only factor in race, it could be the way they talk or the way they sound too. I do not believe blind people are completely unbiased on this matter.
black or white, the hole must be tight. lol.
if you both are ok with all the other things like cultural, understandings, language, attitudes, I'm dam sure you can go for it.
be happy with whatever floats your boat. while dating the other cultural man or a woman, there would be some sort of problems and misunderstandings for sure. particularly, asian's culture differs from the european's culture entirely, but it'd become ok, if you give a good time for understanding.
as per the religion part, as per me, there's only one god, only the way of worshipping differs from religion to religion. lol.
so finally, I'm not for racism or religionism.
Raaj.
I am Asian and both my parents are Asian, and they are very different indeed. Very backwards sometimes. I wouldn't date in my race, I don't like the asian attitude or the way they tend to express themselves. I am very americanized, so I don't act too asian, but I know what hell you go through with Asians. You wouldn't want live in Asia if you have a choice, let me tell you. If you are a guess, fine, they are the sweetest you will find, but if you live there it's hell. Asians aren't all that nice, actually and they are the ones spouting the stuff about respect.